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Arranged marriages are being practiced globally depending upon different cultures around the world. They are very common in Africa, most part of Asia, and a good portion of Eastern Europe. In the age of online dating or Free-Choice Marriages, talking about arranged marriage sounds like an old school from millennium. Amazingly the concept of arrange marriages is still a preferred choice of many Indian parents. Since Forced Marriage (another word for arranged marriage) is an important part of our culture from the time immemorial. Many families still prefer to opt arranged marriage out of choice rather than free choice marriages. They strongly believe that the divorce rate of arranged marriage is still quite low globally. What makes our society think about the success rate of arranged marriage???
A typical modern arranged marriage is a union between two prospective spouses chosen by parents, extended family, friends, acquaintances, or matchmakers from professional matchmaking agencies or maybe giving classified ads in newspapers. Mostly Parents or older family members of to be bride and to be groom use their resources and arrange the initial meeting in a family gathering which is very interesting and have a combination of intense emotions, anxiety, and nervousness. The girl and boy make their decision based on the physical appearance, educational attainment, and financial security of each other and how their families present themselves. The first meeting entirely depends upon the looks of both families. Both the boy and girl our questioned by the mother or sister of each, if they like the prospect or not. If yes, then they are given some more time to talk alone while other family members enjoy drinks and snacks arranged by girl’s father who is very stressful at this time. This is also the most awaited time for both families to know the choice of both the prospects and make a final decision. In some cases, parents of both the prospects make a final decision and do not let their son or daughter to make any change once the decision is finalized.
Basically, the relationship in an arranged marriage begins from not knowing each other, without any feelings. Both partners move together with time and develop love and respect for each other and for their respective families as they come close and spend more time together.
So, what makes this traditional system a success today??? Here are some possible reasons…
At the end of the day to make your marriage successful you must take a leap of faith and hope for a happy married life. Marriage is a gamble and there is no sure-shot way to predict its success. Keep in mind, “Pairs are made in Heaven” the remote control of our destiny and luck is in someone's hands, we know ‘HIM’ as “GOD the ALMIGHTY” so surrender yourself to the will of GOD and make sincere efforts to keep yourself “HAPPY”.
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